Monday, March 31, 2014

Back On The Horse

It's coming up to two months since Alberto died. Grief will not be hurried. But thanks to friends and family and tango folks and clients and you my fellow bloggers I manage to put one foot in front of the other. I am trying to get back on the proverbial horse.

This is the Year of the Horse on the Chinese calendar. It will be a fast year full of conflicts according to some astrologers HERE 

But it's a great year for decorating with horse inspired home accents.

Uber designer Jamie Herzlinger masterfully uses a painting with horses

Check out my guest product picks at Houzz inspired by The Year of the Horse. I am sure you will find something you like.

In the meantime, I am hanging on for dear life.  Each day I remember the love Alberto had for me. His love will ultimately get me to the other side of grief.

7 comments:

  1. Thank you for letting us know you are OK. Keep hanging on.

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  2. Just keep remembering, it's probably the easiest way to conquer the day. One foot in front of the other. I'm so glad you share with us. I found for me blogging was wonderfully cathartic. Keep well.

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  3. I'm a big fan of your blog and my heart breaks for you over the loss of your dear Alberto. Keep the faith...bless you and hope for better days ahead.

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  4. He would want you to live and be happy and go on as a testament to the love the two of you had. When my father died...it was in an accident. He was only 62 and in perfect health. Everyone told me he'd want me to go and be happy. I knew that was true but I also knew that he'd know that I would be very sad for awhile. I cried every day for probably the first three years. That third year I finally got on anti-depressants. Which helped quite a bit. I stayed on them about a year...which gave me a little more distance. I can still cry at the thought of him. I miss him so much and it was so sudden. But I eventually learned to live with my loss and move forward. I think you are doing very well. At two months...I was just walking around crying all the time. My friends pulled me through it. I wish I was there so that we could sit and talk. I hope it helps to know that I know how dark it is for you. I'm so glad I know you. I often say...."Well, my interior designer, tango dancer, author friend who lives in New Orleans......ya da ya da ya da. Sounds impressive..doesn't it. I admire you much...Valorie.....hang in there....I know how hard it is...the best thing that comes out of losing the ones you love most....is finding out that many love you! Many care....I love you and care.....I hope your sadness lightens....Wish I could be there to tell you to just take each day as they come...and one day....you will feel like yourself again. You will.

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  5. The best tribute to Alberto and to the life he loved is to keep going. One day at a time, he would want you to as you would him. It is time to dance to a different tango. I am praying for you and your journey through the land of grief.
    Karen

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  6. Wishing you comfort and healing, Valorie. Surely he would love to see you continue doing what you love to do!

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  7. Year of the Horse! Lovely examples in your Houzz collection, and I'm warmed to see that you have had some energy to browse for beautiful items and refuel the "visual" in the vamp. I was born in a Boar year which, though I'm sure has its benefits, is not glamorous to reveal:-)

    (been out of town lately which means I take a break from being online, but think of you daily -Carey)

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