Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Mourning

Those most affected by the loss of a loved one often observe a period of grieving, marked by withdrawal from social events and quiet, respectful behavior. Mourning. Hang in here with me.

Weeping Angel in a New Orleans cemetery - You can get this beautiful image photographed by Rod Broussard HERE


I have been getting some thoughtful, heartfelt cards, letters, and emails from you. Thank you thank you thank you. Many of you are asking me about getting back to blogging. I will. I want to. I need to. I just need a little more time.

My blog passed a milestone. I have had over one million visits. It may not seem like much considering the years I have been The Visual Vamp. But as you know, my blog is a bit pokey,  personal, and non commercial. It's become kind of a quaint dinosaur in the accelerated age of social media.

Alberto would have been thrilled to see that million mark met and exceeded. He was the one who talked me into doing a blog.

18 comments:

  1. I miss you. I'm happy to be included in your your status. Please take the time you need, as we will all be here for you when you're ready. Peace, prayers and love being sent to you and your family.
    Sharon

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  2. I am sadly well aware of how it feels and how much time it takes . Know that you are in my thoughts all the time and I am so sorry for your loss. Love, C

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  3. I have been to your blog daily to see how you were doing. I soon came to the realization that inspiration does not occupy a heavy heart. Take your time - your readers aren't going anywhere.

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  4. So glad to hear from you. Take your time, you will be back when you're ready.

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  5. I have also been keeping an eye on your blog.Thank you for sharing your most personal moments with us. Please know that individuals you have never met, have you in their thoughts and prayers.
    -Jeana
    jeanaball10@comcast.net

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  6. Truly sorry for your loss, you will return when you are ready and we will be waiting! You blog is wonderfully noncommercial and always a learning experience every time I visit!

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  7. Thank you for touching bases with us, Valorie. I echo everyone else in saying that, of course, you must take your time. Walking through grief isn't a straight path, there are switchbacks that make you think you've made no progress when in fact you have. So when you do return to blogging, we'll be here. And when you hit a hairpin turn that makes you pass next to what you thought you'd left behind, we'll still be here.

    I think that asking if you'll get back to blogging is just a sign of our fear that you will fade away from us. I'm sure nobody means to push, we just don't want you to disappear:-)

    Take good care,
    Carey

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  8. I've rarely commented on your blog, but I've always loved your blog with full of personality. Please take all the time you need. We'll be here waiting for you when you come back :)
    ox
    Yuko

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  9. take your time and take care of yourself. We love you and we understand.

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  10. I love your pokey, personal, non-commercial blog - this is why you are so special! As someone commented above - we will all still be here - please do take all the time you need and don't worry about this - you are in my thoughts

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  11. It just takes time. I've found it takes me like two years after a major loss to really start moving forward. But that is me. I hope it doesn't take you that long. That said...I start going through the motions but I don't feel anywhere normal. Congratulations on the milestone. I wish it had come at a time you could have enjoyed it.

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  12. You take as much time as you need Valorie -- return when you are ready, when it feels healing to you, and only then. And I agree with Carey -- you may want to return, and then take a break, and return again -- do what feels like it nourishes you.

    Emily

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  13. Thinking of you, praying for you.

    I thought you might enjoy this video from the band OK GO. They always have amazing videos, but this one contains tango and lots of color.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rb4lgOiHBZo&feature=kp

    Hallie.

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  14. So sorry for the pain you're feeling. And please don't change a thing about your blog. I feel like it's really "you" - completely charming and captivating. Prayers for comfort and strength for you.

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  15. Thinking about you Valerie and missing you on line. I lost my husband a year ago and I feel your pain still. People say it just takes time but I hope they are wrong. I want to carry him with me always and never get over this love. Life does go on but it is never the same. Memories are a blessings. I hope you hold many in your heart. xoxo

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  16. We are all learning from you. Please do not hurry. Please do not change. We treasure your "pokey". Alberto is there with you and he is proud. No one is rushing you who cares about you.

    and I am damn sure we all care about you!

    My heart aches..and you are a "bon vivant" That will come back! You be patient with yourself. We all love you!

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